Today is my 30th birthday.
I’ve always put a ton of emphasis on birthdays. Whether it’s my own or someone else’s, I love any excuse to celebrate another year of life. Turning 30 though has been a tough one for me. Something about bidding my 20’s farewell and closing a chapter on my youth has been a hard one to digest.
Looking back I marvel at the personal growth that has happened for me in my 20s. It seems like yesterday I was 21, given a green light to freedom where no limits were spared, heart break I never thought I’d recover from, my first run in with death, settling because it seemed like the right thing to do at the time, and a dose of self sacrifice that any mother knows all too well. Looking back, nothing about my life in my 20’s really went according to planned. Prayers went unanswered. Uncharted territory was taken. And I didn’t always get what I wanted. But feeling discomfort and pain from the depths of my soul actually allowed me to get a healthy dose of the reality I was missing. And while it threw me for a tail spin at the time, I wouldn’t change a minute of it. So today I choose to welcome 30, let go of that former version of myself that I no longer recognize anyways, rejoice in what I’ve accomplished so far, and strive for the goals I have set for myself going forward.
And of course no birthday would be complete without a call from my best friend. 16 years to be exact. There was tears involved as she revisited 16 years of memories the two of us have shared. Those old friendships? Hold onto those tight you guys.
Last night I sat down and compiled a list of what my 20s have taught me. Here is what I know to be true…
Family is everything. At the end of the day, they are all you have.
Your parents are human too.
The college you graduate from or lack there of does not define you.
Have a solid group of girlfriends. They are good for the soul.
Step outside your comfort zone. That’s where growth happens.
Admit your faults and embrace them.
Don’t let the opinions of others consume you.
Feel pain. You will come out of it better.
Becoming a momma will stretch your heart in a way you never knew possible.
The right people who belong in your life will come to you, and stay.
If you find a man of integrity, hold onto him tight and never let him go.
It’s okay to feel introverted at times and have a night in with a glass of wine.
That its okay to say no.
You don’t have to please everyone everyday.
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