We live in a society where perfection is taught at an early age.
It’s only human to strive for perfection on a daily basis.
Perfect momma. Perfect wife. Perfect house. Perfect Friend, Daughter, Sister.
Perfect body. Perfect job. Perfect life.
As a child, I remember my parents being perfect in my eyes. It wasn’t until my college years, when I realized they, like everyone else, had their flaws.
Sometimes I think we model to our children a false perfection. We shelter them from reality, rather than teaching them that we all fall short at times.
We forget to teach them that it’s ok to make mistakes, and forgiveness is a noble quality that will bless you.
When the time comes, I want to openly discuss with my daughter the reason for my failed marriage.
I want her to know that God loves us, even when we make mistakes.
While I do not condone divorce, it has become a part of me, and I do not want to hide that from her or anyone, ever.
I want her to know the truth, and where I went wrong. I NEVER want her to think I am perfect.
My hope is for Landyn to hold herself to a standard of grace.
Look beyond what society labels as perfect.
Look within.
Marissa @ Momma Rake says
04.18.12 at 9:47 pmSO awesome and SO true! And that outfit is fab! XOXO!
Christen DeGonzague says
04.19.12 at 12:24 amThat’s great! :>
lindsay says
04.19.12 at 4:39 amThis outfit is GREAT – I especially looove love love this cardigan!
Lilli Toby says
04.19.12 at 7:25 amI grew up where everything has to be perfect, just like you said. My grandmother was my inspiration on teaching me, its OK to be yourself, make mistakes and have flaws. I still struggle with being perfect and having everything perfect. My grandmothers voice didn’t always make it through my mothers and grandfathers perfection is everything. I have recently started to learn how to change my thinking and behavior on this subject. Im thankful for it and it has been helping me greatly because it is also reducing the amount of stress I put on myself.
Good post. xo 🙂
Val says
04.19.12 at 7:38 amYOU are perfect to me!!
Brittany @ Love Stitched says
04.19.12 at 8:28 amSO TRUE!!! it’s hard to accept that we aren’t perfect…it’s this thing in our heads that we feel we have to be 🙁 Your such a great mom and friend! and a little skinny minnie hottie 😉 xoxo
Andrea says
04.19.12 at 9:48 amI love that you want to be honest with your daughter. I’m sure she will love and respect you (even more than she already does) just for sharing openly with her. You’re right, perfection isn’t attainable…and imperfections are often my favorite thing about people! 🙂
Andrea
Left brain, right brain, pug brain.
Jesse @ goodgirlgoneglad says
04.19.12 at 5:58 pmSo true! No one is perfect and neither is any relationship. It is all work and we are all flawed. Grace under pressure is something I try to remind myself of. While I don’t always exemplify it, it is something I strive for.
xx
Jenni says
04.25.12 at 11:40 amReally excellent post, Lindsay. Perfection should never be the goal… I learned that a while back. It’s unacheivable, and makes you crazy. I know you’re doing the best you can, and life is full of ups and downs and mistakes. We learn from them, and we move on, and we’re better for it. 🙂