Raising up a child goes in stages.
Some that you want to bottle up and keep forever, and others that can’t pass soon enough.
For the past couple of months, Landyn has been really interested in expressing her personal style. Shopping for clothes proves to be more exciting then shopping for toys, laundry day is her favorite day, and dress up is her favorite past time. After an entire summer of mismatched outfits, 8 bows in our hair at once, and 6 outfit changes a day, I finally put my foot down. I made Landyn a deal that she could pick out her clothes on weekends, and I would decide what she wore to school during the week.
And then I did what us mom’s do best… I analyzed the heck out of this decision. Growing up, I always had every decision made for me. I didn’t know how to think for myself because everything was always laid out in front of me. This is one thing I choose to do differently in raising Landyn. I try my best to encourage her voice and allow her to feel as though her opinions are valid. I want her to grow up and be able to make strong decisions and always stand up for what she believes when I’m not by her side. And while she’s only four, I try and give her small decisions every day. Do you want the pink cup or the black cup. Do you want grapes for snack or an apple? Do you want to read this book, or that one?
We all know that children’s choices are already so limited. As parents, we are making ten decisions for them before they even get out of the house in the morning. At the end of the day, why should I care what clothes Landyn wears to school as long as they are weather appropriate? Who am I trying to impress? Can’t I give her the power to express herself and let her true colors shine?
What are your thoughts on this? All you seasoned momma’s, I’d love to hear from you.
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joan says
11.05.13 at 9:07 pmI have a feeling i’m not too far away from this “stage” with my little guy. I see both sides, you want your kiddo to look somewhat put together, but you also want them to have freedom to make their own choices. Maybe try giving her a few options, like pick a few pairs of pants or leggings and a few dresses/skirts that all match and let her choose from those options? Maybe that will work?
Candice says
11.06.13 at 6:45 amMy son is two but totally fashion minded. All he will wear are freshly picked moccs and cute leggings. So it’s really win win for me since shipping for him is my most favorite thing. Well see how long this lasts though!! I think you’re awesome for letting your daughter choose.
Shirley says
11.06.13 at 9:15 amI remember when my children were young I gave them choices. When buying items for them I would pick 2 pairs of shoes that I could afford and give them the choice. I knew they would like them and wear them if they made the choice. Same thing when getting them dressed for school. Pick 2 outfits and let them make the choice. It worked for me and they are now 51 and 50. And no I don’t pick out their clothes now. LOL
God Bless, you are a great momma.