Raising up a child goes in stages.
Some that you want to bottle up and keep forever, and others that can’t pass soon enough.
For the past couple of months, Landyn has been really interested in expressing her personal style. Shopping for clothes proves to be more exciting then shopping for toys, laundry day is her favorite day, and dress up is her favorite past time. After an entire summer of mismatched outfits, 8 bows in our hair at once, and 6 outfit changes a day, I finally put my foot down. I made Landyn a deal that she could pick out her clothes on weekends, and I would decide what she wore to school during the week.
And then I did what us mom’s do best… I analyzed the heck out of this decision. Growing up, I always had every decision made for me. I didn’t know how to think for myself because everything was always laid out in front of me. This is one thing I choose to do differently in raising Landyn. I try my best to encourage her voice and allow her to feel as though her opinions are valid. I want her to grow up and be able to make strong decisions and always stand up for what she believes when I’m not by her side. And while she’s only four, I try and give her small decisions every day. Do you want the pink cup or the black cup. Do you want grapes for snack or an apple? Do you want to read this book, or that one?
We all know that children’s choices are already so limited. As parents, we are making ten decisions for them before they even get out of the house in the morning. At the end of the day, why should I care what clothes Landyn wears to school as long as they are weather appropriate? Who am I trying to impress? Can’t I give her the power to express herself and let her true colors shine?
What are your thoughts on this? All you seasoned momma’s, I’d love to hear from you.
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